Have you ever felt alone in a crowded room? There was just something in you that told you that you didn’t belong here but everyone else did. If you’ve ever felt that way, you know that it is the most heartbreaking and isolating feeling. You just feel like you don’t belong anywhere.
This feeling of belonging is something we constantly are all searching for. It’s a feeling of love and appreciation and acceptance. It’s feeling like in that moment in time, you are exactly where you need to be.
Sometimes, having multiple friend groups from different parts of our lives can complicate this. If I belong somewhere, can I still belong where I have been before? Can I belong with my high school friends if I truly belong at Georgetown?
Yes. Each community may love and appreciate us in different ways, but this is so essential for us to be a whole person and to love ourselves. You can be loved in different ways.
Where do I belong?
I belong at Georgetown. The people here are so influential for shaping exactly who I am. At the newspaper, they push me to grow professionally and to stand strong for what I believe in. My sorority sisters are a huge aspect of my support system: they cheer and root for me. I belong with people who help and support me to grow.
I belong with my Disney community. They saw me not for my plans and achievements, but for the love I was willing to give the world. I belong with people who remind me to show love to the world and remain empathetic, even when I’m scared of being open.
I belong with my friends from high school debate. These friends have watched me grow from a young and confused teenager to a slightly less confused young adult and have stood by for every phase. I belong with people who watch me grow and love me anyway.
I belong with my childhood best friends. They know me for my best and my worst. They’ve seen my weird phases and even joined in. I belong with people who don’t judge me, no matter what.
There is not one way to love. Different people in life will love us in different ways, but each time it is just as valuable and just as important. That love is a sign that we belong.
If you’re reading this and are struggling with feeling like you don’t have a place in this world, please know that isn’t true. You have so many people who love you and appreciate you and with you belong with. They may not all be located in the same place, but they love and care about you.
If you ever feel alone and need someone to talk to you, reach out to me.